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To all the beautiful & lovely ladies out there, have a wonderful Women’s Day! This is a special day for us to remember that we, as women, are the most important part of our society and that we can achieve success in all of our endeavours just as well as men! And if you feel you’re not that special just remember that “You are the one thing in this world, above all other things that you must not give up on.”- Lili Reinhart.

While this is a very special day for us to remember, I should remind all of the beautiful ladies out there to take care of themselves. And by taking care, I don’t just mean taking care of your career, physical health, and emotional health; I also mean taking care of your mental health, which is the most important of all.

We often forget that no matter where we are or what we do, there is always a part of us that accepts reality as it is while desperately wanting something else to happen, which affects our minds in such a way that we forget to be ourselves. There are many situations where we forget that we have a life of our own and that we should sometimes think about ourselves, but at the end of the day, we tend to compromise our needs in various places and situations, and I believe it’s time we change that!

Here is a start with some pointers we should be aware of for our mental health and heal it within time, but before we do I just want you to know that “Mental health is not a destination, but a process. It’s about how you drive, not where you’re going.”

1. CREATING DIFFERENCE BETWEEN GENDERS

There are long-standing stereotypes in most cultures and societies, and those who have immersed themselves in our society have built barriers for each gender and paved the way for them to affect our mental health. If we look closely, there are certain things that have become common now between male and female in our patriarchal society, and the first one that comes to mind is always career.

It’s fine for a man to leave his city or country to work, but when it comes to women, the general reaction is ‘oh no! Ye kya? You’re  a girl, who will ensure your safety? Is it true that one factor determines everything? Why don’t we do something about it? Women strive twice as hard as men to prove that they are capable of being good enough, but no matter how hard we try, ‘we are not good enough!‘ And we should make a commitment to change that.

2. POST TRAUMATIC DISORDER

This is the most common situation that every woman encounters. It has existed since the Civil War, when there was sexual abuse, violence, and so on, and most of us are unable to overcome it because we are unable to digest that fact. But PTSD isn’t just for that anymore; it’s also more common for people who have traumas, and those traumas come from bad past experiences, crushed dreams, feeling helpless and depressed. PTSD is more common in women because they are not adequately supported, and we as individuals can and should change that. I encourage every woman to seek help if she is going through a difficult time and realises she requires it  and finds a solution for them because ‘You don’t have to struggle in silence’.

3. MENOPAUSE 

Females have a beautiful body with miraculously natural changes. And while we have these miracles with us some of them are to be under a very careful watch. Now, menopause is a phase that every woman must go through; it is a time period that is critical for a female’s mental health, and by crucial, I mean that when their periods stop due to hormonal changes, they act out! It can be good or bad, but at this point, we’re supposed to encourage these women to be happy because their bodies are changing so rapidly that they don’t realise how they’re behaving, which can be out of control at times. And in these tough times, we must show them that everything is fine! We will be there to assist you if you require it! And that if you are low, we will make you happy, because if you act out on that person at this period of time, their mental health will suffer and they may suffer from depression.

We just have to realise that “We need to be kinder to ourselves. If we treated ourselves the way we treat our best friend, can you imagine how much better off we would be?” – Meghan Markle. We should recognise that if a part of us women is to give, it is past time for us to prioritise ourselves. Honour the woman you are, and make her believe that the world may think what they want, but we are not weaklings; we simply accept our fate because we are much stronger and larger than you. We may not always be on the good side, but we know how to make things right and give the wrong side a chance! And I just want you to know that I am proud to be a woman, and you should be as well!